Monday, July 31, 2006

Is Motherhood Boring?

Here's the latest that's circling around the mom-blog-and-listserv-world, a British article about how boring it is to be a mom. In a way, I don't even want to be continuing this discussion. In part, it's really important to challenge all the "I love being a mom and every minute is wonderful" celebrity dish that's being passed around--by mothers who have nannies and night nurses to help them through the day. But the tone, oh why does every article about motherhood these days have the same awful, petulant, "it's-all-those-other-moms-against-me,the-only-one-who-sees-the-world-as-it-really-is" tone. Oh, that's right, its the mommy wars theme, once again.

The thing that also bugs me about every new article about motherhood--unlike other sorts of politics, no one feels like they should pay attention to what other mothers, writers and journalists have already said. It's all about reinventing the wheel, getting a contract, finding an edge against others. We've already seen the motherhood-can-be-boring-and-annoying theme before. It's from the book Mother Shock, which says the same thing without the venom. In every other field of writing, the theme has to be new, but when it comes to writing about motherhood, newspaper and magazine editors lower their standards and keep contracting the same old, same old. Too bad for us.

4 comments:

karrie said...

Did you catch the recent Amy Sohn piece about how mothers, especially those who SAHM and/or enjoy their kids and parent without help from Tibetan nannies, are boring depressives, who are harming their children? @@

My personal take is women who write this kind of crap are simply grasping for attention and a book deal. They remind me of Ann Coulter. Lots of noise, little substance.

Jody said...

Yes! Someday, historians will make serious hay with the current crop of motherhood "analysis," and the truly bizarro editorial choices re: publication will skew everyone's results completely.

Makes me wonder what we get wrong about the 1950s....

MaMa-Feminista said...

I completely agree......The Mommy War crap divides women and is perpetuated by the media. It has become so mythological that people actually think it exists. They/we could be pushing agendas like www.standup.org and focusing more important endeavors like the economy, education, and employment rights for families. I'm frankly sick of it.

Sarah V. said...

Hmmm. This article screamed 'defensiveness' to me. She spends the whole time trying to justify herself. Satirising the opposing position is just part of that. Come to think of it, I suppose defensiveness is exactly what the Mommy Wars are about.