As I prepare to do some speaking engagements this spring, I've been musing over this question: I published "The Truth Behind the Mommy Wars" nearly a year ago; has anything changed in a positive direction for women and men who as parents seek choices other than being totally out of the workplace and public life forever, or continue to work fulltime? Are we moving? Are we moving in a direction that takes us toward more real choices? Toward more support for families? Toward support that also supports our full humanity and potential?
This morning's Good Morning America replayed Mommy Wars again, pitting Linda Hirschman against the creators of Total 180 magazine, the new mag for professional women turned stay at home moms. And as usual, it's one thing to have women talk about their different paths in life. It's another to ignore any structural reason why moms leave the workplace. It's another to ignore the fact that mothers move in and out of the workplace and they need more support in not losing ground each time they do. But none of this story gets in. It's the catfight, each time.
So, no. Not a lot of progress on that front. We still don't have a show where one corporate executive is confronted by parents who want to work humane hours but can't, and the CE has to explain why the company is so rigid. We still don't have a show that brings a Senator in to be faced by moms and dads who want affordable quality daycare. No, it's mommy wars ala 1985 all over again.
We're not yet moving forward.